The Amazing Way Your Fears Can Reveal Your Personality

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When I was a kid, I used to be terrified that there were monsters in my closet.
Even though I’ve become significantly less scared of monsters as I’ve gotten older, that doesn’t mean I haven’t developed new fears, like my severe fear of heights. But when I saw that your phobia can actually reveal your personality type, I couldn’t believe it.
I never realized that what I’m scared of most was actually connected to my personality. And when I saw what mine meant, I was floored.
And I know I’m not alone with my fear of heights. Most people experience phobias of some kind. Professor of psychology Dr. Graham C. L. Davey writes that “phobias are extremely common” and that they affect “a clear majority of the population.”

Are You Afraid Of The Dark?

Are You Afraid Of The Dark?

If this image scares you, you may suffer from nyctophobia, or a fear of the dark!
You are a joyful and positive person with an active imagination. You love playing pretend and using your creative mind at home and at work.

Your fear of the dark is a result of your overactive imagination. Your brain creates scary scenarios when the lights go out. You may think that keeping the light on is the answer, but this may just keep you awake longer. Dr. Dennis Rosen writes, “As demonstrated in clinical studies, light directly affects the brain’s inner clock, and delays sleep onset.” Try a low-watt nightlight instead.

Attempt to use your imagination for good. Now would be a good time to take on a creative project. Maybe start that book you’ve been meaning to write or sign up for an art class. Let your brain put a positive spin on your creative nature.

Are You Afraid Of Public Speaking?

Public speaking

If this image scares you, you may suffer from glossophobia, or a fear of public speaking!
You are an introvert in the truest sense of the word. You love being alone with your thoughts. That isn’t to say you don’t have friends. You simply prefer having a few solid relationships as opposed to being a social butterfly.

Psychology professor Dr. Sian Beilock writes that, for twenty years, researchers have been trying to figure out “why some people thrive when all eyes are on them while others can barely make it to the podium.”

While being in front of large crowds may not be your thing, that doesn’t mean you have to be a shrinking violet. Coming out of your shell a bit could open up a whole new world for you. When your coworkers ask you to happy hour after a long day, now might be a great time to tag along. You don’t have to be the center of attention in the conversation, but letting people get to know you can go a long way to forming new, meaningful relationships.

Are You Afraid Of Snakes?

Snakes

If this image scares you, you may suffer from ophidiophobia, or a fear of snakes!
You are a loving and devoted friend and family member. You value people and your relationships above all else. You are willing to go to the mat for a friend and you’ll be the first one to defend them in an argument.

Your fear of snakes is a fear of your loved ones being threatened. Psychology Today writes that one scientific theory is that “humans and other primates are predisposed to acquire fears of critters that once threatened our ancestors’ lives.” Your snake phobia is simply your mind’s way of instinctually looking out for those you love.

While being a devoted friend is a great thing, make sure you also look out for yourself. Striking a balance in your relationships is key. Rather than giving a loved one everything they want, try seeking out compromises that leave you both satisfied. In the long run, balanced friendships will last longer and be much more meaningful.

Are You Afraid Of Spiders?

Spider

If this image scares you, you may suffer from arachnophobia, or a fear of spiders!
You are a strong individual and an even stronger leader. People flock to you and find inspiration in your methods. Your leadership skills have helped you to advance quickly at work and have made you the true head of your household at home.

Your fear of spiders is not something to fret over. In fact, arachnophobia is incredibly common. A U.K. study of 261 adults showed that 32% of women and 18% of men shared your fear. Similar to germophobes, your fear of spiders comes from a “disgust response,” but yours has more to do with not wanting to be common or “a follower.”

Your ability to lead is admirable, but your fear of following may actually be a hinderance. No one can be in charge 100% of the time. It may be good practice to let someone else take the reins for a change. Let a coworker lead a project. Try focusing more on contributing to the team than running the show.

Are You Afraid Of Being Alone?

Being alone

If this image scares you, you may suffer from monophobia, or a fear of being alone!
You are outgoing and quite often the life of the party. You love being the center of attention and you love being with friends. You jump at any chance to go out and have fun. And you certainly always want to be in a relationship. Being single terrifies you.

But what is really so bad about being alone? Social psychologist Dr. Theresa DiDonato writes, “In American culture, not only do we promote the idea that romantic relationships are central to our well-being, but we often stigmatize single individuals, falsely equating being single with failure or a personality problem.” But this fear of being on your own or being single can be detrimental to your long-term mental health.

If you are in a healthy relationship, now may be a good time to seek out some personal time. Carve out time in the day to read, meditate, or be alone with your thoughts. If you are single, this may be the perfect time to enjoy your individuality a bit. What is the rush to return to a relationship? Working on yourself will make you a better catch in the long run anyway.

Are You Afraid Of Heights?

Heights

If this image scares you, you may suffer from acrophobia, or a fear of heights!
You are a complex person. Your fear of heights makes you a true paradox. On the one hand, you enjoy meeting new people, having new experiences, and visiting new places. On the other hand, you are deeply afraid of the unknown. How can both of these be true? Well, just take a closer look at your phobia.

You often find yourself in situations where you experience a fear of heights. How did you get there? You were trying something new. But now that you are there, you are afraid of the uncertainty of it all. And many people share this fear and complexity with you. Dr. Glenn Geher writes, “Fear of heights is a human universal.”

While being complex may seem like a good thing, it can sometimes be hard for people to figure you out, which can be frustrating for both parties in some situations. You also may have trouble making decisions and you are often torn between both sides of an argument. Without giving up your complicated nature, you can practice decisiveness and keeping things simple for a change. You can be complicated without making your whole life complicated.

Are You Afraid Of Crowds?

Crowds

If this image scares you, you may suffer from agoraphobia, or a fear of crowded spaces!
Not to be confused with claustrophobia, you are not necessarily afraid of enclosed spaces. You are a people person, but you also like your space. You don’t let anyone get too close to you too quickly. You prefer keeping your distance from conflict and if you could have your way, you’d live on your own.

Psychology Today defines agoraphobia as “intense fear and anxiety of any place or situation where escape might be difficult.” As a result, you prefer keeping physical and emotional space between you and loved ones.

While looking out for yourself is certainly a good quality, you may be missing out on some meaningful relationships by not letting people into your world. Opening yourself up to others is an easy way to allow someone to become closer to you without creating that need for “escape.” Take the time to get to really know your friends, and give them the chance to truly know you in return.

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