3 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t ‘Stay Together For The Kids’

                                   

Many couples feel pressured to stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of their children. Instead of going their separate ways, they remain in a marriage that isn’t working and make themselves unhappy to try to keep their children happy. While this might seem like the right decision at the time, staying together just for the sake of your kids can actually end up having a negative impact on your family.

Here are three reasons why you shouldn’t stay together for the kids:

1. It Will Cause Resentment


Children can end up feeling like they need to take one parent’s side over the other, which can end up being a huge struggle and a source of anxiety for them. Even if you try to hide your marriage issues, your kids will eventually notice a difference in the way the two of you interact. They can end up blaming themselves for problems within the family, which can lead to low self-esteem, guilt, anxiety and resentment.

2. Your Children Will Internalize Your Behavior

Children learn about relationships from watching their parents interact. They will learn how two people are supposed to treat other and what to expect from a partner.
 Your example could show them respect, compassion and consideration, or contempt, spite and disinterest. If you’re unhappy in your marriage, it will show through your words and actions and your children will be paying close attention to the example you set.

3. Your Children Will Be Surrounded By Conflict

Many parents think their children are immune to tension in the home as long as it isn’t directed toward their kids. But tension between parents can easily trickle down to the rest of the family. Even if there is no yelling, fighting or abuse, children will pick up on feelings of contempt and unhappiness. It affects them more than you might realize. If your child feels surrounded by tension and conflict, they may struggle with feelings of security and happiness.
Staying together for the kids may seem admirable, but it can end up creating an unhappy environment for your children. Don’t teach your children to settle. Instead, demonstrate self-respect, independence and healthy boundaries. It might be tough for a while, but someday they will understand, and they may be thankful for the healthy example you set.

Learn more in the video below.

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10 Signs Your Soul Has Reincarnated Many Times Before!

Buddha taught his followers of rebirth or reincarnation — the belief that a soul is born multiple times into new bodies or new life forms, traveling on an eternal path to serve karma from previous lives, and eventually reach a state of perfect enlightenment when additional human lives are no longer necessary. Those who believe in reincarnation understand it as a maturation process of soulful energy.

Here are 10 signs that your soul has been reincarnated many times!

1. You Have Recurring Dreams

Dreams are reflections of the unconscious mind. Repetitive dreams may signify reflections of past life experiences. Many people claim to have experienced certain events, seen certain people or gone to other places in their dreams that feel extremely familiar and recognizable.
2. You Have Odd Memories

Out-of-place memories could be due to fantasies, but they could also be evidence of a past life. Remembering something in detail that has never happened to you in your current life could be a memory from a past life.

3. You Have Deja Vu

Deja vu happens to most people at some point, but repeatedly experiencing it could be a sign of previous reincarnation. Smells, sounds, sights and tastes may seem extremely familiar and cause flashbacks to another place and time.

4. You Are An Empath

Empaths absorb the feelings of others. They are extremely attuned to emotions. Being an empath may be a sign that your soul has undergone many previous reincarnations, and you have experienced so many emotions that you are now extremely sensitive to them.

5. You Have Precognition

Precognition is future sight or second sight. It’s the ability to obtain information about events that will happen in the future. It can be experienced through visions, physical sensations and dreams.

6. You Have Retrocognition

Retrocognition is the ability to obtain information about past events that is unavailable. These past events could be from your own lifetime, or sometime in the distant past. Retrocognition is difficult to prove, but for those who have experienced it, retrocognition could be a sign of soulful reincarnation.

7. You Have an Old Soul

Feeling older than your age reflects could be a sign of reincarnation. You’ve carried over knowledge and experience from your past lives that have stayed with you, and reflect into your current life.
8. You Have Strong Intuitions


Intuition is the ability to balance the conscious mind with the unconscious mind, and to tap deeper into primal wisdom and innate knowledge. Those with strong intuitions may be mature in soul — evidence of many lives lived.
9. You Enjoy Other Cultures or Times

Having a great, unexplained attraction to a certain culture or time period from the past may be a sign of reminiscing about your past life. Your soul may still be longing for a past environment.

10. You Have Unexplained Fears

Certain memories or experiences can leave a mark in past lives. Some believe that those who have been reincarnated may still be able to experience the echos of past traumas through fears and phobias that are unexplained.


7 Simple Zen Rules That Will Redefine Your Life


                              


These rules were compiled by a Zen monk known as Shaku. He had lived them each day until his passing in 1919.

Sleep at a regular hour

By going to sleep at a regular hour each day, you create important consistency in your life. Our mind and bodies need consistent rest so that you are at your best each morning, and are all the more likely to wake up early- and the quality of your morning is a huge factor in determining the quality of your life.

Eat with moderation and never overeat

It’s easy to forget the effect food can have on our lives, particularly with our modern-age eating habits. Over-eating is just around the corner for most of us, and abusing food has more than just physical consequences; it has very real mental as well as global ones too if you think about the huge amount of waste involved.

When an opportunity comes do not let it pass you by — but always think twice before acting

Consider if the opportunity is the right thing to do- if it’s moral and if it’s just- and make sure it’s the right thing for you specifically.

Light incense and meditate in the morning

Daily meditation, particularly first thing in the morning, is something I talk about often. This is probably the most important point here!
By the way, incense has some truly remarkable qualities. If you’re looking to understand why it’s been used for so many centuries, check out this article.

Do not regret the past. Look to the moment

This is the cornerstone of Buddhist philosophy. The past isn’t real; it doesn’t exist. Only the now exists, and the path our present actions will have in our future lives.

Watch what you say, and whatever you say, practice it

Words are one of the most powerful things in the world. They’ve ended love, began love, created war and peace. They have a profound effect on others. The second part to this point is just as important. You’ve probably heard the saying, “practice what you preach”, at some point in your life. Without that crucial aspect, we do not have any power behind our words, and therefore they become less effective.

Have the fearless attitude of a hero and the loving heart of a child

When dealing with others, whether in or out of confrontation, we should approach the situation with the loving heart of a child. A child naturally has great compassion, understanding, is naturally caring, who sees every person as an equal — regardless of their social standing.
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THIS Is How To Increase Human Energy According To Nikola Tesla

The most fundamental principle, the basic program of all life, is energy saving. Whatever you do, whatever you like, whatever feels good for you, it’s just a psychological response that shows you how to be more energy efficient.
Life craves energy and subconsciously you’ll always choose the path of least resistance because of that. That’s why high calorie food tastes better, that’s why whenever your beliefs are questioned you naturally refuse any arguments, that’s why people feel more depressed when there is no sunshine outside.
All default responses are just energy saving reactions; ‘more calories’ means more energy, changing the structure of your beliefs requires energy, and it’s more efficient to do less when you are lacking the energy of the sun.
However, a momentary ‘energy waste’ can result in a more sustainable energy consumption in the future. This requires higher levels of intelligence. For this to be achieved we must apply conscious effort in the right time and place.
But what is the source of our energy? How can we gain more energy? How can we raise our consciousness and increase our intelligence?
Nikola Tesla perfectly concluded what’s the main, most fundamental source of human energy and how to increase our energy and evolve as species.
More energy means higher levels of operating power for our consciousness. If you apply time to this ‘equation’ it means that the longer we sustain higher levels of energy for our consciousness, the more intelligence we download from The Universe, the more intelligence we integrate into our being.

So what’s the source of our energy?whats-the-source-of-our-energy

“First let us ask: Whence comes all the motive power? What is the spring that drives all? We see the ocean rise and fall, the rivers flow, the wind, rain, hail, and snow beat on our windows, the trains and steamers come and go; we here the rattling noise of carriages, the voices from the street; we feel, smell, and taste; and we think of all this. And all this movement, from the surging of the mighty ocean to that subtle movement concerned in our thought, has but one common cause.
All this energy emanates from one single center, one single source, the sun.
The sun is the spring that drives all. The sun maintains all human life and supplies all human energy.”

How to increase the human energy?how-to-increase-human-energy-2

The following answer will make you understand almost everything about Nikola Tesla’s lifestyle; why he was vegan; why he was obsessed with free energy; why he despised ignorance and imbeciles;
How to increase human energy? There are actually 3 steps.

The first step is increasing the human mass:how-to-increase-the-human-energy-increase-human-mass

In order to increase the energy we have to think in terms of speed. If, let’s say, there is a train and you add one more wagon, 3 things can happen.
Either the wagon is of the same velocity as the train; in this case the speed of the train will slightly increase. The wagon is with a smaller velocity; in this case the whole train will decrease its speed. Or the wagon is of higher velocity; in this case the whole train will significantly increase its speed.
We can think of it like this: ‘If there is a family with children of the same degree of enlightenment as the parents, that is, mass of the “same velocity,” the energy will simply increase proportionately to the number added. If they are less intelligent or advanced, or mass of “smaller velocity,” there will be a very slight gain in the energy; but if they are further advanced, or mass of “higher velocity,” then the new generation will add very considerably to the sum total of human energy.’
In Nikola Tesla’s opinion growing muscles is “equivalent to adding mass of “smaller velocity,” and I would not commend it” but moderate exercise “insuring the right balance between mind and body, and the highest efficiency of performance, is, of course, a prime requirement”
Food is one of the most important elements of increasing your mass. What we consider as food is just processed sunlight. Plants, with their photosynthesis, combine carbon, hydrogen and oxygen and bind them through sunlight, forming the CHO molecule (fat) we consume through food and burn for energy. However, the actual energy comes from freeing the photons of light between the chemical bond. That’s what produces heat. That’s what gives calories, stored photons. We eat sunlight for energy!
Fruits, Vegetables, Meat, everything that we eat consumed the CHO molecules that the plants created. The energy that we consume through food is actually the same sunlight that plants used to forge these elements together.
If we eat meat, we are consuming already consumed, unused CHO, as the only place that CHO comes is from photosynthesis. It’s second hand CHO in a way. Consuming CHO directly from plants, fruits and vegetables is certainly equivalent to adding mass of “higher velocity,”
“It is certainly preferable to raise vegetables, and I think, therefore, that vegetarianism is a commendable departure from the established barbarous habit. That we can subsist on plant food and perform our work even to advantage is not a theory, but a well-demonstrated fact. Many races living almost exclusively on vegetables are of superior physique and strength. There is no doubt that some plant food, such as oatmeal, is more economical than meat, and superior to it in regard to both mechanical and mental performance.” Nikola Tesla says.
The consumption of second hand food is one of the main limits we put on ourselves for evolving as a race into more intelligent, kind and less animal like species.
“To free ourselves from animal instincts and appetites, which keep us down, we should begin at the very root from which we spring: we should effect a radical reform in the character of the food.” Nikola Tesla continues.
“Gambling, business rush, and excitement, particularly on the exchanges, are causes of much mass reduction”
“Whisky, wine, tea coffee, tobacco, and other such stimulants are responsible for the shortening of the lives of many, and ought to be used with moderation.  But I do not think that rigorous measures of suppression of habits followed through many generations are commendable. It is wiser to preach moderation than abstinence.”
To conclude: Consume food that’s closer to the sun, avoid unnecessary enlargements of your body that’ll use more energy, avoid energy wasting habits and unhealthy addictions that serve solely to your ego. Each man who practices these advices adds a ‘wagon’ with higher velocity to the ‘human train’ we all move.

The second step is reducing the force that’s retarding the human mass:Danger of nuclear war illustration with multiple explosions

“The force which retards the onward movement of man is partly frictional and partly negative.
To illustrate this distinction I may name, for example, ignorance, stupidity, and imbecility as some of the purely frictional forces, or resistances devoid of any directive tendency.
On the other hand, visionariness, insanity, self-destructive tendency, religious fanaticism, and the like, are all forces of a negative character, acting in definite directions.
To reduce or entirely overcome these dissimilar retarding forces, radically different methods must be employed. One knows, for instance, what a fanatic may do, and one can take preventive measures, can enlighten, convince, and, possibly direct him, turn his vice into virtue; but one does not know, and never can know, what a brute or an imbecile may do, and one must deal with him as with a mass, inert, without mind, let loose by the mad elements.
A negative force always implies some quality, not infrequently a high one, though badly directed, which it is possible to turn to good advantage; but a directionless, frictional force involves unavoidable loss. Evidently, then, the first and general answer to the above question is: turn all negative force in the right direction and reduce all frictional force.
Simply said, frictional force is ignorant, directionless, without a quality unlike the negative force which carries high quality but in a wrong direction. Frictional force will, most of the time, result only in energy loss no matter where it is directioned, while negative force can lead to significant increase of human energy if focused towards a proper, strategic direction.
“There can be no doubt that, of all the frictional resistances, the one that most retards human movement is ignorance. Not without reason said that man of wisdom, Buddha: “Ignorance is the greatest evil in the world.” The friction which results from ignorance, and which is greatly increased owing to the numerous languages and nationalities, can be reduced only by the spread of knowledge and the unification of the heterogeneous elements of humanity. No effort could be better spent.” Nikola Tesla concludes.
Individually, this can be explained as maintaining constructive balance between our talents and flaws; establishing peace between our darkness and light and uniting them towards a mutual, greater goal.
This, of course, needs to be accompanied with learning, curiosity and reducing individual ignorance about The Universe around us.
Cleansing your chakras is as essential as taking a bath in the context of reducing the force that’s retarding your energy. Allowing energy to flow freely through your own body ensures a reduction in friction. It decreases the waste of your energy with fighting the negative emotions that are clogging your energy pools.
According to Nikola Tesla war should not be terminated suddenly as this can result in something worse than war.
“War is a negative force, and cannot be turned in a positive direction without passing through, the intermediate phases. It is a problem of making a wheel, rotating one way, turn in the opposite direction without slowing it down, stopping it, and speeding it up again the other way.”
We shouldn’t stop war, but redirect it towards a mutual goal of humanity. For example, instead of fighting ourselves, we can redirect our energy towards exploration of different parts of our galaxy. Of course, gently and gradually, with great maintenance.
“It is doubtful whether men who would not be ready to fight for a high principle would be good for anything at all” Nikola Tesla explains why war is not a frictional force but one of a negative character.
In his views, the future of war should result in reduction of man power exchanged for machines that will take the hit.
To see how this can happen we must see how everything began. It started with the law of the strongest where physically weaker men were thrown completely to the mercy of physically stronger men. However, the weaker men developed intelligence due to their energy efficiency and developed ways to use stones, sticks and make weapons. Today wars are held by men who smoke cigars, sitting in a room, completely controlling physical forces with their intelligence. The future will make the intelligence create machines and control them instead of men, until war is mainly intellectual and the physical factor is completely irrelevant.
To conclude: Use your talents to guide your flaws. Find peace and eliminate forces of friction with reason, within you and around yourself.

The third step is to increase the force accelerating the human mass:how-to-increase-human-energy-increase-the-force-accelerating-human-mass

“Of the three possible solutions of the main problem of increasing human energy, this is by far the most important to consider, not only because of its intrinsic significance, but also because of its intimate bearing on all the many elements and conditions which determine the movement of humanity.”
How do you increase the force that’s moving the human mass?
Simply, spend more energy and spend it towards the most efficient possible direction.
Our world is driven by machinery under a system created by our motive power. The mass of people is not moving chaotically but systematically, following an order like a clockwork. If we decrease our motive power we’ll, unintentionally, be imprisoned by the same system we alone have created.
That’s why increasing the motive power is key in increasing the human energy. Constantly increasing the motive power will result in a constant increase of human energy. “Motive power means work. To increase the force accelerating human movement means, therefore, to perform more work.” says Nikola Tesla.
But how can one man increase his energy constantly? Will there not be a point when the man cannot do more work? Will there not be a point when doing more work becomes harmful to the man, even unhealthy?
There is a secret. When a man applies his effort so that, when coming into effect it will be in the direction of the collective human movement, the effort becomes most efficient and with less energy more is achieved.
This means that as more people do more work towards a mutual goal, as more is achieved with less effort resulting in increase of mutual energy.
Think of it like spinning a wheel. At first, for only a fragment of its potential speed you need a lot of effort and energy to even start moving the wheel. As you start moving the wheel and applying effort in the direction of its movement, as less effort it demands and as faster it keeps spinning. In the end, with less effort than it was demanded from you to move the wheel an inch, you spin it countless times faster.
The same is with human energy!
The secret of energy is that it is eternal in The Universe where almost nothing is. Your energy, no matter where you spent it, will forever stay and spread out if not directioned. That’s why it’s crucially important to focus your effort.
As you spend your energy towards one direction, with time this energy will accumulate and less effort and energy you’ll need to achieve a lot more.
This is true globally and individually.
“Another answer we have now found to the above great question: To increase the force accelerating human movement means to turn to the uses of man more of the sun’s energy.”
Imagine what we can accomplish if we all focus our efforts toward creating more sustainable ways of generating energy; cleaning the earth; reducing hunger; finding solutions for interstellar travel; educating;
To conclude: Focusing your motive power and effort on one goal, towards the right direction of movement, will accelerate the velocity with which you move closer to your goal. With time, you’ll spend less effort and achieve more.

Conclusion:this-is-how-to-increase-human-energy-4

To gain your energy from the right sources means you gain more energy from less; reducing the retarding factors means you have less friction that wastes your energy; focusing your motive power towards the direction of the collective human movement means you use others’ energy to boost your energy.
Gain more energy, waste less energy, spend the energy so next time you’ll need less to achieve more. Increase human mass, reduce retarding force, and increase the force accelerating the human mass. Follow this process with reason.
Gain more, waste less, spend efficiently, learn.
That’s the secret formula for increasing the collective human energy according to the great mind of Nikola Tesla.
That’s how we raise our intelligence and evolve as species.
Reference:
– The Problem of Increasing Human Energy by Nikola Tesla;
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5 Laws Of Karma And The Affect They Have On Your Life

Karma is the Sanskrit word for action. Like Newton’s law,  ‘every action must have a reaction, when we think, speak or act we initiate a force that will react accordingly.  This returning force maybe modified, changed or suspended, but most people will not be able eradicate it.  This law of cause and effect is not meant to punish, but is rather for the sake of education or learning. A person may not escape the consequences of his actions, but he will suffer only if he himself has made the conditions ripe for his suffering. Ignorance of the law is no excuse whether the laws are man-made or universal.

To stop feeling afraid and start feeling empowered in the worlds of karma and reincarnation, here are 5 Karmic Laws to guide you:
1. The great law


This is the law of cause and effect.  If what we want is happiness, peace, love, and friendship, then we should BE happy, peaceful, loving and a true friend.  What you put out into the universe returns to you.
2. The law of expansion

Life doesn’t just happen. It requires our participation.  Whatever surrounds us gives us clues to our inner state.  Be yourself, and surround yourself with what you want to have in your life.

3. The law of balance

Yin and yang, my friends. There is balance to everything. Karma sees to it that the darkest darks give way to the brightest lights. Every failure is an opportunity for success, and every success leads us to future failures.

4. The law of connection

Even if something we do seems inconsequential, it is very important that it gets done as everything in the Universe is connected.
Each step leads to the next step, and so forth and so on.  Neither the first step nor the last are of greater significance, as they were both needed to accomplish the task.
Past, Present and Future are all connected.

5. The law of growth

For us to grow in spirit, we must change, and not the people, places or things around us.  The only given we have in our lives is ourselves, and that is the only factor we have control over.
When we change who and what we are within our hearts, our lives follow suit and change too.


The Buddhist Attitude to Animal Life


If we believe that animals were created by someone for men, it would follow that men were also created for animals since some animals do eat human flesh.
Animals are said to be conscious only of the present. They live with no concern for the past or future. Likewise, little children seem to have no notion of the future. They also live in the present until their faculties of memory and imagination are developed.

Men possesses the faculty of reasoning. The gap between man and animal widens only to the extent that man develops his reasoning faculty and acts accordingly. Buddhists accept that animals not only possesses instinctive power but also, to a lesser degree, thinking power.

In some respects, animals are superior to men. Dogs have a keener sense of hearing; insects have a keener sense of smell; hawks are speedier; eagles can see a greater distance. Undoubtedly, men are wiser; but men have so much to learn from the ants and bees. Much of the animal is still in us. But we also have much more: we have the potential of spiritual development.

Buddhism cannot accept that animals were created by someone for men; if animals were created for men then it could follow that men were also created for animals since there are some animals which eat human flesh.

Buddhists are encouraged to love all living beings and not to restrict their love only to human beings. They should practise loving kindness towards every living being. The Buddha's advice is that is not right for us to take away the life of any living being since every living being has a right to exist. Animals also have fear and pain as do human beings. It is wrong to take away their lives. We should not misuse our intelligence and strength to destroy animals even though they may sometimes be a nuisance to us. Animals need our sympathy. Destroying them is not the only method to get rid of them. Every living being is contributing something to maintain this world. It is unfair for us to deprive their living rights.

In his Handbook of reason, D. Runes says:

'We can hardly speak of morals in relation to creatures we systematically devour, mostly singed but sometimes raw. There are men and women who practise horse love, dog love, cat love. But these very same people would take a deer or a calf by its neck, slit its throat, drink the blood straight away or in a pudding, and bite off the flesh. And who is to say that a horse they cherish is nobler than a deer they feed on? Indeed, there are people who eat cats, dogs and horses but would use a cow only as a work animal.'

Some cry over a little bird or goldfish that expired; others travel long distances to catch fish on a nasty hook for food or mere pleasure or shooting birds for fun. Some go into deep jungle for hunting animals as a game while others spend a lot to keep the same animals at home as their pets.
Some keep frogs to foretell the weather; others cut off their legs and fry them. Some tenderly tend birds in gilded cages; others serve them for breakfast. It is all quite confusing. One thought stands out in a world where man clubs man for gain or sheer gore, there is hardly time to ponder over his morals in relation to animals.

Every religion advises us to love our fellow humans. Some even teach us to love them more if they belong to the same religion. But Buddhism is supreme in that it teaches us to show equal care and compassion for each and every creature in the universe. The destruction of any creature represents a disturbance of the Universal Order.

The Buddha was very clear in His teachings against any form of cruelty to any living being. One day the Buddha saw a man preparing to make a animal sacrifice. On being asked why he was going to kill innocent animals, the man replied that it was because it would please the gods. The Buddha then offered Himself as the sacrifice, saying that if the life of an animal would please the gods then the life of a human being, more valuable, would please the gods even more.

Man's cruelty towards animals is another expression of his uncontrolled greed. Today we destroy animals and deprive them of their natural rights so that we can expend our environments for our convenience. But we are already beginning to pay the price for this selfish and cruel act. Our environment is threatened and if we do not take stern measures for the survival of other creatures, our own existence on this earth may not be guaranteed. It is true that the existence of certain creatures is a threat to human existence. But we never consider that human are the greatest threat to every living being on this earth and in the air whereas the existence of other creatures is a threat only to certain living beings.

Since every creature contributes something for the maintenance of the planet and atmosphere, destroying them is not the solution to overcome our disturbances. We should take other measures to maintain the balance of nature.

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