20 Tough Truths About Life No One Wants to Admit


We all struggle.  We all suffer on the inside.  Every day…
We worry.
We procrastinate.
We feel overwhelmed.
We feel angry.
We feel lonely.
We don’t feel good enough.
We wish we were thinner
We wish we had more money.
We wish our jobs were different.
We wish our relationships were different.
We think everything in life should be easier.
And yet, every one of these struggles is self-created.  They are real, but they are only real because we have created them in our minds.  We have attached ourselves to certain ideals and fantasies about how life has to be in order to be good enough for us.
We worry because things might not turn out how we expect.  We procrastinate because we fear discomfort and failure.  We feel overwhelmed because we think we should be further along than we are.  We feel angry because life should not be this way.  And so it goes.
But it’s all in our heads.
And it doesn’t have to be this way.  At least not for YOU.
You can think better… you can live better.  This is a choice you can make.
Take a deep breath, and let all that thinking and ruminating go.  Just bring your attention to the present moment.  Focus on what’s here with you now – the light, the sounds, your body, the ground under your feet, the objects and people moving and resting around you.  Don’t judge these things against what they should be – just accept what they actually are.  Because once you accept reality, you can improve it.
See life as it is, without all the ideals and fantasies you’ve been preoccupied with.  Let go of all of those stressful distractions, and just experience this moment.
This moment is good enough as it is.  Be here.
You can go back to fretting about everything else in a minute.
But before you do, now would also be an opportune time to remind yourself of some truths we tend to deny when we’re stuck too deep in our own heads…
There’s a lot about our lives we absolutely can’t control. – 

You cannot control everything that happens in life, but you can control how you respond.  In your response is your greatest power.

Our expectations often make us utterly unhappy. – Happiness is letting go of what you assume your life is supposed to be like right now and sincerely appreciating it for everything that it is.

We will always be incredibly imperfect. – If you wait until you’re “perfect” before you share your stories, ideas, talents, and gifts with the world, no one will ever hear from you.

A moment spent worrying is a moment wasted. – Worrying will never change the outcome.  Do more, worry less.  Train your mind to see the lesson in every situation, and then make the best of it.

The best lessons often come from the hardest days. – Stand strong.  Sometimes you have to experience a low point in life to learn a good lesson you couldn’t have learned any other way. 

Success easily gets to our heads, and failure easily gets to our hearts. – Our character is often revealed at our highs and lows.  Be humble at the mountaintops.  Be steadfast in the valleys.  Be faithful in between.

We confuse being busy with being productive. – What you pay attention to grows.  So focus on what truly matters and let go of what does not.

More money left unmanaged just creates more problems. – Yes, we need money to live.  Earn it.  Save it.  Invest it.  But avoid spending money you haven’t earned, to buy things you don’t need, to impress folks you don’t even know.  Manage your money so it doesn’t end up managing you.

Most of us don’t need more to be happy – we need less. – When things aren’t adding up in your life, begin subtracting.  Life gets a lot simpler when you clear the clutter (mental and physical) that makes it complicated.  

Our fancy gadgets often get in our way and dehumanize us. – We all need to learn to be more human again.  Don’t avoid eye contact.  Don’t hide behind gadgets.  Smile often.  Ask about people’s stories.  Listen.

As a society, we are utterly infatuated with outer beauty. – If the whole world suddenly went blind, how many folks would still be able to see your beauty?  Focus within.  Be beautiful on the inside too.  And always do your best to see beauty in others.

Most of the arguments we have with one another are pointless. – Be selective in your battles.  Oftentimes peace is better than being right.  You simply don’t need to attend every argument you’re invited to.

We default to judging others by their actions and ourselves by our ideals. – Be the type of person you want to meet and be around.  Be the type of person whose actions, words, and values always agree with one another.

We don’t always get what we give. – You will end up sadly disappointed if you expect people will always do for you as you do for them.  Not everyone has the same heart as you.

None of us know anyone worth continually blaming. – Steal your power back.  Free yourself to step forward on your own two legs.  The best part of your life will start on the day you decide your life is your own, with no one to endlessly lean on, rely on, or blame.

It’s easier to hold on to the way things are than it is to let go and grow. – Letting go and moving forward means coming to the realization that some things are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.

If we want the benefits of something in life, we have to also want the costs. – Most people dream of the rewards without the risks.  The triumph without the trials.  Don’t be one of them.  Life doesn’t work that way.  When you find something you want, start by asking yourself:  What am I willing to give up to get it?

Even with all our advancements, progress still requires old-fashioned work. – In a culture that seeks quick and easy results, we must learn the beauty of effort, patience, and perseverance.  Be strong, be present, and build positive daily rituals that get you there.

We never feel 100% ready when good opportunities arise. – Most great opportunities in life force us to grow emotionally and intellectually.  They force us to stretch ourselves and our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.  And when we don’t feel comfortable, we don’t feel ready.

Many of us will have our lives cut short. – One way or another, none of us live forever.  And it’s much harder to change the length of your life than it is to change the depth of it.  So, how deep will you go today?  That’s something you should reflect on.  Because how we spend our days is how we spend our lives.



The 7 Core Mental Habits of Unhappy People


There are some mental habits that can tremendously impact your life — some can improve it, by bringing you joy and freedom, while others can quite worsen it, by making you feel sad and miserable.
Here I would like to present the 7 core mental habits of unhappy people that, if adopted, might create a hell out of your life, and which you should consider eliminating if you desire to live more happily, freely, and at peace with yourself and those around you.

1.They blame everyone except themselves

Instead of taking responsibility and action in order to create a better life for themselves, unhappy people continually criticize others, putting all responsibility on their shoulders, and blaming them for anything that goes wrong with their life.

2. They complain instead of taking action

Unhappy people like to complain. They like to complain a lot. In fact, they do almost nothing else except complaining. They are continually focused on how big their problems are instead of trying to find ways to overcome them.

3. They see themselves as victims of their destiny

We can choose to be either creators or victims, and unhappy people always choose the latter. They believe that they don’t have what it takes to make a positive difference in their lives, so they give up trying to achieve what they deep down desire, and they end up filled with regrets and anguish.

4. They are wasting the present for the future or the past

The present moment is the only moment that truly is. The past has gone, the future is yet to come, and the here and now is when we can truly live, savoring each and every moment life brings us on our way. Unhappy people always worry about the future and never let go of their emotional attachment to their past experiences.

5. They are trapped in the game of competition

Human beings are deeply social beings and derive immense joy from sharing and by cooperating with their fellow humans. Those who are unhappy don’t understand this though, and they are immersed in competition, always trying to surpass others in order to feel better about themselves. The only thing they achieve though is to be miserable and stressed.

6. They find it extremely difficult to trust people

We all need friendship and love in our lives to be happy, but in order to form friendly, intimate relationships one needs to have an open heart and trust people. Unhappy people are insecure — they don’t trust others out of fear that they might be hurt or disappointed. Hence they end up being lonely in a world that they feel is cold and hostile.

7. They are seeking permission from others


Freedom is everyone’s birthright, but due to the way we’ve been brought up many of us have been conditioned to believe that we need to ask for the permission of authority before we can do something we desire. This is especially the case with unhappy people, who never think for themselves or act on their own but are following a predetermined path created by others, trying their best to live up to others’ expectations, which only makes them experience immense suffering.

Buddha’s 5 Step Guide To Change Your Life



If you’re reading this, I’m assuming you’re like everyone else in the world:
You’ve experienced problems and had to overcome them.
This is a natural part of life, right?
But there is a way to approach problems that give you the ability to overcome them much more easily.
Coming up with a solution to our problems can be done by looking at a few different key areas of development, laid out in a sacred text by Buddha called the Sabbāsava Sutta.
Here are the basics you need to know.

1) Over-Consumption

You’d have to live in a box to not acknowledge the fact that we’re consuming too much in this world- and we’re all suffering from it.
There’s something to be said about ‘everything in moderation,’ because it’s a very wise statement.
Consuming too much leads to lethargy and selfishness. But consuming too little can keep us stuck behind barriers.
Learning how to recognize your poor consumption habits will help you triumph during times of spiritual, emotional, mental and physical illness.

2) Persistence & Patience

So many people look for instant gratification. It seems like our entire culture is built upon that ideal.
But that’s not how the world really works!
So, set big goals that you can work toward because if everything came to you immediately, you’d have nothing to look forward to.  Be patient and persistent in your pursuits and you will find success.

3) Replacing Bad Habits

If you find yourself struggling to stay disciplined, like with an addiction or maybe a new commitment to exercising and eating healthy, the urge to quit or resume old behaviors can be quite strong.
It will be easier to stay disciplined by replacing a bad ritual with a good one. Always be looking for healthy habits to replace your old ones with.
In the eastern traditions, it’s considered very important not to suppress bad habits, but gradually replace them.
This is actually confirmed by modern scientific studies.
Studies show when you suppress habits, they tend to create negative obsessions with the subject you’re suppressing.

4) Insight and Understanding

The information age definitely has its benefits! Think about it: you have the world’s knowledge at your fingertips.
Buddha would’ve been delighted with this power. After all, knowledge and insight were the cornerstones of his teachings.
Use it to overcome obstacles in your path.
Whether it’s to learn a new skill, educate yourself on important issues, or simply to connect with old friends, take advantage of this highly valuable tool.

5) Skillful Avoidance

Undoubtedly, there will be times when you have to deal with a certain amount of negativity.
And sure, part of being in the world means dealing with those situations, but sometimes there is a lot to said for skillfully avoiding them.
If a person speaks badly of you, avoid them. If you’re trying to lose weight, but your friends want to eat junk food, remain vigilant with your goals and values.
It can do a lot to change your life! By 

11 LIFE CHANGING LESSONS FROM BRUCE LEE


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Most people recognize Bruce Lee as a renowned martial artist and action film actor, but along with his incredible athleticism, strength, and poise, he also left behind many important life lessons. 

It takes a lot of dedication, determination, and willpower to reach the level that Bruce Lee did with martial arts, and many people have considered him one of the most influential martial artists of all time. Along his journey in life, he gained much wisdom that he shared with the rest of the world that we can still apply to our lives today.


1. LIFE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST.


“If you truly love life, don’t waste time because time is what life is made of.”
“Real living is living for others.”
“Knowing is not enough, we must apply. Willing is not enough, we must do.”
“To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities”.
“The key to immortality is first living a life worth remembering”.

2. EMBRACE YOUR MISTAKES.


“Don’t fear failure. — Not failure, but low aim, is the crime. In great attempts it is glorious even to fail.”
“Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.”
“Those who are unaware they are walking in darkness will never seek the light.”

3. YOUR MIND IS THE GREATEST ENEMY, UNLESS YOU LEARN TO MASTER IT.


“Defeat is a state of mind; no one is ever defeated until defeat has been accepted as a reality.”
“Do not allow negative thoughts to enter your mind for they are the weeds that strangle confidence.”
“As you think, so shall you become.”
“A quick temper will make a fool of you soon enough.”

4. DON’T TRY TO CONTROL REALITY – JUST GO WITH THE FLOW.


“The great mistake is to anticipate the outcome of the engagement; you ought not to be thinking of whether it ends in victory or defeat. Let nature take its course, and your tools will strike at the right moment.”
“In order to control myself I must first accept myself by going with and not against my nature.”

5. SIMPLIFY YOUR MIND, SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE.


“It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.”
“If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.”
“Be happy, but never satisfied.”
“Absorb what is useful, discard what is useless and add what is specifically your own”

6. ONLY FOCUS ON BECOMING THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.


“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”
“?The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.”
“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself – do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.”
“For it is easy to criticize and break down the spirit of others, but to know yourself takes a lifetime.”
“To know oneself is to study oneself in action with another person”.

7. PUSH YOURSELF PAST THE COMFORT ZONE.


“If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”
“Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one”
“In the middle of chaos lies opportunity”

8. YOU CAN ACHIEVE SUCCESS THROUGH PERSISTENCE, BUT MORE THAN THAT, BELIEVING IN YOURSELF.


“Life’s battles don’t always go to the stronger or faster man. But sooner or later the man who wins, is the man who thinks he can.”
“Remember no man is really defeated unless he is discouraged.”
“I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.”
“The doubters said,
“Man can not fly,”
The doers said,
“Maybe, but we’ll try,”
And finally soared
In the morning glow
While non-believers
Watched from below.”

9. STAY HUMBLE.


“Showing off is the fool’s idea of glory.”

10. DON’T BE AFRAID TO WALK THE PATH ALONE.


“Only the self-sufficient stand alone – most people follow the crowd and imitate.”

11. ALWAYS KNOW YOUR SELF-WORTH.


“The more we value things, the less we value ourselves

Jesus and Buddha:The Parallel Sayings



Jesus: "Do to others as you would have them do to you." Luke 6:31

Buddha: "Consider others as yourself." Dhammapada 10:1


Jesus: "If anyone strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also." Luke 6:29

Buddha: "If anyone should give you a blow with his hand, with a stick, or with a knife, you should abandon any desires and utter no evil words." Majjhima Nikaya 21:6


Jesus: "Truly I tell you, just as you did not do it to one of the least of these, you did not do it to me." Matthew 25:45

Buddha: "If you do not tend to one another, then who is there to tend you? Whoever would tend me, he should tend the sick." Vinaya, Mahavagga 8:26.3


Jesus: "Put your sword back into its place; for all those who take the sword will perish by the sword." Matthew 26:52

Buddha: "Abandoning the taking of life, the ascetic Gautama dwells refraining from taking life, without stick or sword." Digha Nikaya 1:1.8


Jesus: "Those who want to save their life will lose it, and those who lose their life for my sake will save it." Mark 8:35

Buddha: "With the relinquishing of all thought and egotism, the enlightened one is liberated through not clinging." Majjhima Nikaya 72:15


Jesus: "Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything that I have commanded you." Matthew 28:19-20

Buddha: "Teach the dharma which is lovely at the beginning, lovely in the middle, lovely at the end. Explain with the spirit and the letter in the fashion of Brahma. In this way you will be completely fulfilled and wholly pure." Vinaya Mahavagga 1:11.1


From "Jesus and Buddha: The Parallel Sayings" edited by Marcus Borg, published by Ulysses Press

6 Obvious Signs Your Partner Is No Longer In Love With You


You get blamed for everything bad in their life

They always have an excuse for avoiding you

Does your partner suddenly have to stay late at work every night or go on business trips every weekend or refuses to bring you with them to friendly gatherings or parties?
 

Their future plans do not involve you 

Sometimes people find out the hard way that their partners are making future plans that don't involve them.

They feel as though they don't need to explain themselves

You regularly feel hurt by them, but often blame yourself
 
  

10 Morning Habits of Highly Successful People That Make Them Extraordinary

You know what makes highly successful people less stressed, happier and more productive? They know that their personal priorities are worth more than other people’s priorities. Upon waking up, these significantly successful professionals don’t immediately check their email – they make it a point to claim the early hours of the day as their “me” time.

After all, these extraordinary people believe that if their priority needs to be done, then it has to be done first. 
What do highly successful entrepreneurs and executives do upon waking up in the morning? Here are ten of them:

Wake up really early


Surely you know that time is an invaluable asset. Highly successful people take it up a notch by waking up at 5:30 am, 4:30 am and even 4:00 am. Not only will they have more control in their early hours, they’ll also have more opportunities to do things that matter to them. 

Start with waking up 15 minutes earlier than your usual time. Then, gradually adjust.

Burn your calories


We don’t mean just the intense exercise regimen – you can simply do yoga, like Christies CEO Steve Murphy does. Exercise will not just make you think clearer, be healthier and scientifically happier, it allows you to combat stress as well.

Make time for exercise. An hour-long routine seems too daunting, so try running, dancing or even walking around the neighborhood for at least ten minutes.

Do an “Hour of Power”

Motivation doesn’t last forever, so you need to replenish yours regularly. Highly successful people know this, so they dedicate ample time to increase their supply. You’re more likely to continue accomplishing a task once you’re emotionally invested in it, right?

Spend thirty minutes listening to inspirational anecdotes and empowering quotes.

Jot down on your gratitude journal

Happiness is about wanting the things that you already have. By enumerating the blessings they’re grateful for, highly successful people become more open to optimism and inspiration and improve their outlook in life.

Everyday, write down at least one thing that you’re thankful for. Learn to count the small wins.

Ask yourself one important question

“If today was the last day of your life, would you still want to do what you’re about to do today?”

This hard-hitting question gets you right where it wants you. If you find yourself saying “no” several times in a week, then go out there and change something. You never know when you’ll have the opportunity to do it the next time.

Eat that frog first

In the morning, the willpower of highly successful people is fresh and ready to go. So, this is the best time to take advantage of it – do your hardest task, your “frog” first. This way, you’re more likely to get it done and you’re more likely to finish it without other people barging in on you.

Choose your “frog” of the day – only one – and stick to completing it before you even get to eat breakfast.

Connect with your partner

Use your morning hours to reconnect with your partner. Talk about your plans, your finances and even your beloved hobbies as a way to always be present in their lives. In the morning, highly successful people know that you’ll have more energy and more focus so making this a ritual is paramount. You can even set up one day of the week as your “breakfast date”. Go to the nearest cafe for breakfast or run around the neighborhood with your partner. It may do wonders for your relationship.

Plan and strategize

If you don’t take a few minutes of your time to map out the direction of your day, how will you know if you’re headed towards the right direction? Take at least 10 minutes of your day to visualize your life goals, review your tasks for the day and allot schedules for breaks. It’ll help your day be more manageable and less stressful.

Meditate and clear your mind


Keep calm and let your inner peace guide you: spend a few minutes to say a prayer or to meditate to keep you relaxed. Remember, 90% of illnesses are stress-related, so forget the rush, don’t dash and enjoy a few “hush” moments with yourself. Focus on your breathing. You may even recite an empowering mantra during your routine.

Cuddle and bond with your kids

If you have children, this is for you. Don’t be that parent who says,  “Oh, my son/daughter grew so fast! I barely had time to enjoy with her/him.”

In the morning, when there is less clutter in your mind and less stress in your system, make it a point to help them get dressed, cook a hearty breakfast (or bake a batch of cookies) and even talk to them about their dreams. After all, you’re working so that your family will have a better time. Don’t let work get in the way of family – make time for your priorities.

source:www.lifehack.org

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