6 Signs A Nice Person Secretly Has Negative Intentions

Have you ever met someone who you thought was just so nice when you first met them? They seemed funny, genuine and likable, and a friendship began to form. But as you got to know them, something started to seem off. That “nice” persona seemed to just be a mask they were hiding behind. When their real personality came out, you didn’t like what you saw.
People who seem nice when you first meet them, but turn out to be someone else are all too common. These people have hidden negative intentions and if you aren’t careful, they can
 end up taking advantage of you.

Here are six signs that a nice person has secret negative intentions:

1. They Repeatedly Make Demands

Someone who seems nice but is really a manipulator tends to make demands. They believe that they are superior than those around them, so they use other people to satisfy their own agenda. Challenging their words and refusing to participate in their game can help prevent you from getting sucked into their negativity.

2. You Feel Bad After Talking To Them

Feeling bad or strange after speaking with someone is often your gut instinct telling you that something is wrong. When dealing with a nice person, you’ll feel positive after spending time with them. When dealing with a wolf in sheep’s clothing, you’ll be left with a negative feeling.

3. They Show Abnormal Eye Contact And Body Language

Manipulators know how to use eye contact and body language to make you trust them. But if you look close enough, you might be able to see through it. Forced eye contact that is long and uncomfortable might be a sign that the person you’re talking to has a hidden agenda.

4. They Use Persuasion As A Game

Someone with bad intentions who is hiding behind a nice persona will constantly use persuasion to get what they want. They’ll use peer pressure to talk you into doing something that you don’t want do. They are pro’s at manipulating the people around them to get what they want.

5. They Use Humor To Insult You

A “nice” person who actually has negative intentions might use humor to insult you. When they say something offensive, they’ll follow it up with “just kidding.” This is a way of bringing you down and making them feel superior. They might especially use this tactic when you’re with a group of people, to make you look bad in front of others.

6. Their Conversations Are Always One-Sided

Seemingly nice people with bad intentions seek to dominate discussions. They manipulate conversations to make everything about them. This sign can take time to notice. But after being around this person long enough, you’ll begin to see that you can never get a word in, and the conversation always seem to revolve around them.

A Zen master reveals the giveaway signs of a toxic person and the most powerful way to deal with them

We’ve all come across toxic people before. You know, the type of person that can be manipulative, judgmental and inconsiderate of anyone’s feelings.

It can hard to deal with these people, especially if you’re forced to every single day. That’s why I thought the advice below from a Zen master on Reddit was quite remarkable.

But first, let’s define what a toxic person is so you know who you’re dealing with and then we’ll get to the Zen Master’s advice.
9 Traits of a Toxic Person
1) They talk more than they listen
Toxic people tend to have narcissistic tendencies and find it difficult to focus on anything but themselves. This goes against Buddhism where compassion and kindness for others (and yourself) is paramount.
2) They are never wrong
Everything they say is right and everything you say is wrong. They are unwilling to learn and will react harshly if you go against them.
3) Drama follows them
There’s always something wrong. If you offer advice, they’ll simply say it won’t work.
 4) They force relationships
It’s more about having relationships for the sake of other people seeing that they have relationships, rather than actually enjoying the connection for what it is.
5) Their experience is the standard by which everything should be judged.
Their own life experiences are how everyone else should be judged. If they hated yoga, then it’s a waste of your time.
6) They often lie
They benefit from lies in some ways, so they have no problem telling them.
7) They lack tact and general courtesy
A lack of empathy and acts of superiority define a toxic person. They boast about their honesty so don’t even see the problem with using hard words to get what they want.
8) They exhibit controlling behaviors
They want you to act a certain so they can get they want, whether that’s superiority or gaining from you in some way.
9) They love to talk about other people
They bring down others in order to bring up their own self-esteem.
How a Zen Master recommends you respond to toxic people
In reaction to a post on Reddit, here is a wise piece of advice on how to deal with these kinds of people:
“The deeper your present moment peace gets, the easier it’ll be to react non- passionately when confronted with hostility. As this gets better, you can begin to realize more deeply just how much someone has to be suffering internally in order to have such harsh reactions. With enough insight, you can develop your empathy and compassion based off this knowledge and these also help you remain even more peaceful in the present moment.
Continue the conversation Eventually, with enough compassion and insight on your side, you can begin to extinguish the fires of hostility by extinguishing anger with patience and understanding… It’s hard to continue treating someone harshly when they continue treating you well. In helping them relieve these feelings, you not only help them but you also help yourself, since you no longer have to deal with them as they were.”

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