THE DARK SIDE OF EMPATHS THAT YOU RARELY SEE AND MUST ALWAYS BE CAUTIOUS OF!

Naturally known as the healers of the world, empaths are usually those with heightened senses who not only see different energies but also hold the capacity actually to feel and experience them.
For those who are not empaths may often perceive this ability as a gift but for an empath, it has both sides, the bright and the dark side. A trait that is not always fun to possess.
This gift allows other people to feel safe around empaths and as a result, empaths are the ones with the most shared and the most profound secrets. However, on the flip side, despite the fact that an empath can handle emotions, they also experience quite a bit of stress.
The dark side of an empath is the home ground for both negative and the positive thoughts, at the same time. They experience both, the good and the bad and it can be incredibly overwhelming.
Empaths are the most attractive to negative energies, as they are too positive ones. No matter how hard they try, they are almost never able to escape the evils of the world. They have a thorough understanding of how the world works and that often confuses and saddens them.
As a result of absorbing these energies, empaths are consistently found to be exhausted and fatigued, but the art in their personalities is that you will never find out. They quietly observe and feel.
Unfortunately, many times an empath is taken for granted, they are never given back, and they are taken advantage of. They are certainly givers.
This dark side is heavy, heavy to carry. With keeping everything you have in your heart to yourself and then adding to it everything others have in their hearts too. They carry the weight on their selfless shoulders.
More so, an empath’s dark side also allows them to neglect their body and mind for the sake of others. This neglect builds overtime, and it is only after a particular time that you realized that you have become more distant than ever from yourself.
When an empath falls in love, they are never able to do so adequately. They can never let go of everything they have in their hearts to someone else. They know if they do, the love would be overwhelmingly intense and be extremely hard to handle for both people in the relationship.
Hence, empaths prefer keeping a part of their lives hidden. They always keep their guard up and not let anyone enter their realms. They persist with the war with themselves. The war they wage.
Ideally, for an empath, the only way to combat in this battle is by ensuring that they are capable of distinguishing between their own emotions and the energies that try to invade them.
Empaths need to be able to let down the wall they’ve built up around their feelings so that they can let their empathic selves do good in their own life.
Otherwise, empaths are destined to fight a war within themselves that never ends.
source: peacequarters

13 STAGES AN EMPATH AND A NARCISSIST GO THROUGH IN A RELATIONSHIP TOGETHER

Some people are meant for each other. And others just aren’t. Some make us better, and some only bring us down. Nevertheless, we cannot choose the people we fall in love with.
There is a saying that “opposites attract”, but here is what happens, when an empathic person is in a relationship with his/her opposite – a narcissist:
1. An empathic person falls in love with a narcissistic person, and it is the start of their relationship. An empath will fully commit to the relationship and makes an effort to make the relationship work.
2. The empath is blinded by the butterflies and a fake special bond. The narcissist creates the illusion of a strong commitment, and the empath falls deeper and deeper into this relationship.
3. Sometimes it might seem that the narcissist wants the relationship as much as the empath does and is even willing to work hard for it. Actually, they just want someone, who will devote their time, energy, and love while being under their control.
4. Over time the empath starts to depend on the relationship and the other person. The empath feels incomplete and insecure without their partner. The narcissist will make them feel like they can’t handle life on her own and that she needs him in her life; they use emotional violence to control their empathic partner to feel more powerful. At the same time, the empath becomes weaker and more uncertain of things.
5. The narcissist will portray themselves as the victim. They will talk about their past and make-up stories so that the empath will feel more connected to them and give the narcissist more support and care. Narcissists enjoy the attention and the compassion they get from empaths.
6. The empath will try to see the positive traits in the narcissist, and because of their big heart and compassion, the empath tries to understand where the narcissist is coming from and why they act the way they do. The empath knows that everyone has their own ways and they try to respect that.
7. The relationship is all about the narcissist and their needs. The empath will slowly see that, but they are too afraid to talk about their desires and needs. They know that the narcissists might get mad at them and they don’t want to cause any conflicts.
8. The empath will try to solve all the problems with love and affection. But the more time and energy they put into the relationship, the more the narcissist will feel powerful. Finally, everything goes in the way the narcissist wants, and the empath has no control over the situation. On the outside, the relationship looks healthy and happy.
9. Finally, the empath will say something, because they feel suppressed and suffocated by the narcissist. The narcissist, of course, does not like it and tries to turn it against the empath. They blame the empath for all the mistakes and unhappiness. The narcissist makes them feel selfish and unfair.
10. The narcissist always needs attention and drama around them. They can’t stand it when they’re not the center of attention. When there is an argument, the narcissist might storm off or go and bad-mouth the empath to their friends. The narcissist always believes that they’re the victim.
11. The narcissist will deny all their mistakes and will label the empath as “crazy” and “overdramatic”, especially when they want to talk about their problems and what’s been bugging them.
12. As mentioned above, over time the narcissist has made the empath insecure and confused, so the empath begins to wonder if all this is their own fault. The empath has a hard time understanding their partner’s actions
13. The empath will not understand that they are being manipulated because they have a pure and innocent soul. The narcissist will twist the empath’s words and make the whole situation look like the empath’s fault.
Everyone has to make their own mistakes and learn from them. It’s easy to talk, but hard to put into practice. Later it is, of course, easy to think that what a fool you were, but when you are in that certain situation and in love, you are not rational.

TEST: Pick A Card To Learn Your Current Relationship Path And Future Love Life

Whether or not you are someone who believes in psychics, horoscopes, or even Nostradamus’ predictions for the future, this fun test is a great way to reveal a little more about your love life.
Just take a look at the four cards below. Which one calls to you? Try not to over think it. Just go with your gut reaction. Once you’ve chosen a card, keep reading to find out what your card reveals about you and your romantic endeavors!

Seven of Cups

When this card appears in your reading you have to be ready to defend yourself. You have to be on your guard as the expectation of trouble is coming your way. If troubles are coming from your past, you must think really clear and hold your ground, even if you are tired and weary. Deal with it once and for all.
The Seven of Cups card talks of perseverance, trying repeatedly and refusing to take “no” for an answer. You have to continue despite fatigue, slow stamina, toughness and strength. If you are single, the appearance of Seven of Cups in a reading might suggest that you are careful with relationships because you might have been hurt in the past.
Try and analyze the things that went wrong and see where there is room for change. Now is the time to get yourself whole emotionally. When in a relationship, the apparition of this card may suggest that you have to be on guard because you might get hurt.
Another meaning might be that a partner is very protective and you might feel suffocated. Tell him/her you need a little breathing space.

The Two of Pentacles

The Two of Pentacles is likely to appear when temptation has wormed its way into your life. This card presents to us seven golden chalices each overflowing with a different object. The picture is quite serene and reflects the only outcome is either one of two options.
You may feel as if you have too many options to explore and it leaves you feeling defeated, but this is not the case. The Two of Pentacles is pointing out this flaw in your plan and is here to help encourage prioritization.
In a relationship-oriented spread, the Two of Pentacles spells trouble. If you’re already attached, it means that you can expect some bumps in the road. At this time, it’s important for you to evaluate your relationship objectively. Are you being completely honest with your partner about your intentions?
If you are looking for love, this means that your romantic pursuits may not be what they seem. If you are unsure about someone, do not jump into a relationship with them.
This card is very likely to come up if your potential partner is not being honest about their emotional availability. 

The Tower

The tower is all about your ability to assert yourself in a diplomatic and constructive way. It is also about your own personal growth and coming into your own by taking the reins and directing yourself down your path without stepping on the toes of others.
It is a very powerful card and is generally a good omen in your readings. If you’re already attached, Tower in a love oriented reading is a sign that your relationship has stability and room for both parties to grow together in a healthy way.
For those looking for love, this is a good sign that it’s right around the corner, so long as you’re putting yourself out into the dating pool. Right now is the best time to let your confidence shine through and meet the person of your dreams.

Ace of Swords

The Ace of Swords is a card all about making steady progress in your life. It does not promise instant results, but it does bring it with happy endings for those who are steady on their paths.
When the Ace of Swords appears in your relationship spread, it means that you’re in a good position to grow with your partner. It’s possible that you are on the verge of starting something new or learning something new about your partner.
Be open and honest about your expectations of the relationship and do not be afraid to voice any concerns you have about the future. Now is the best time to figure out if you and your partner are on the same page, or if you want different things out of life.